How to reduce the problems in your life?

passion.png, Nov 2022

Problems! Who doesn't have problems in their lives? Every single time, when we meet our friend or family member, read the newspaper, and even while scrolling down memes, people are speaking about the problems. However, it is foolish to deny that having difficulties in life

 is a crucial part of our lives. Our lives should be full of obstacles. Because challenges we come across during our life course offer us a chance to learn, understand, reflect, and grow. Additionally, problem-solving comes with immense pleasure and motivation to live life. Though life may look boring in the absence of problems, facing unnecessary problems is a waste.

However, the question always bothers everyone is, why do we have so many problems in our life? Everybody has their individualistic dilemmas, no age group or no gender or no animal have ever escaped from them. If we are alive, then it means we will have to face difficulties. But the good news is all enigmas come with solutions, and we have the power to decide which predicaments to be faced and for which, it is meriting to find the most suitable resolution. Then the question arises, how can we determine which problems are worth facing? The answer to this question will also clarify, why we have numerous obstacles of all sorts in our lives.

The simple answer to the question is the focus. I certainly did not mean that people lack focus, but I am trying to bring your attention to the fact that we do focus on everything. We usually draw our attention from every day's traffic to which nation has increased the budget for the military. We are concerned about the personal lives of other people, from the people who live next door to us to the celebrity. We divide our focus on annoying things, things which we want to avoid, and things which are never going to happen to us. We focus on every possible thing which does not help us to be happy or to grow, things which we never want to happen, and which hurts us now and then. However, there is a fine line between being aware of the surroundings and taking part in the stuff going on around us. So does it mean all our problems are because we converge on the wrong things? Well, my answer to this question is NO. Be patient I will explain myself.

Before discussing the probable answer to the question raised above, let me ask you one more mystery. Why do you think we focus on all the possible things around us? If we can find the exact answer to this question, then we may not need to think about the focus on right and wrong things. Often we tend to focus on all the disturbing elements because we haven't decided what should be our central focus. In Ramayan, a Hindu mythological book, lord Raam aims his arrow at the fish's eye hanging up in the air by looking at its impression in the moving water below. He successfully shoots an arrow into the fish's eye and wins the heart of princess Sita. He was able to perform such a difficult task, so accurately because of his concentration. The moral of this scene is if you are focused on only one thing at a time, then the odds of you will achieve the target are high. Similarly, if we have specific goals set for our future, then we can choose where to focus. Setting specific intentions, needs clear thinking and timely analysis of them.

"Whenever you want to achieve something, keep your eyes open, concentrate and make sure you know exactly what it is you want. No one can hit their target with their eyes closed."

Paulo Coelho

For instance, a person wants to be rich and decided to focus on accumulating wealth. In this scenario what are the chances the person will be rich? Well, the definition of being wealthy can be very much individualistic. One can feel rich by getting two meals a day, however, others cannot feel wealthy ever after living in a five-story house with all luxury. Aiming for a vague goal does not allow us to be focused. Nevertheless, picking on what exact amount we want to earn, when we want to receive it, and most importantly how we are intending to earn it, allows us to be fully focused in life. A similar principle is applicable in all aspects of our existence. The more specific objects we set more focused we become. The more we decide to concentrate on one thing the chances of achieving it increase. Once we elect to concentrate on one thing automatically we eliminate our consideration of the things which are not in favour of our goal. Unconsciously we limit our involvement in office gossip, scandals, fights, negativity, and meaningless conversations. Our limited acquaintance with negative people and the environment habitually reduces unnecessary problems in our life. We automatically tend to hang out with more intellectual and people with a positive attitude. After converging on accomplishing goals a person may come across several brainstorming problems, but they will be worth facing and solving those intricacies offers us pleasure and boosts self-confidence within us.

Our thoughts play a crucial role in setting clearer and specific goals. We have two seeds seen in our minds, positive and negative. The fact is more you water the seed and are exposed to the sun it will grow faster, likewise more we put energy into our habits and thoughts faster they impact our lives. If we feed continuously on our fear to do something, then we cannot expect any courageous output from us. If we think again and again about the betrays from the past, then we cannot allow trustworthy relations and people whom we can count on in our life. Hence, while settling the objectives for us, it is equally important to be vigilant about our thoughts.

"It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light."

Aristotle Onassis

We all are allowed to have our individualistic opinion on anything and everything. No opinions can be right or wrong, hence is no need to judge them. Let me know your opinions on this topic in the comments below. They are valuable to us.


About the Author:

Dr. Priyanka Mohol [BHMS, PGDEMS & CC, DDHN, MPH (Scotland)]

Public Health Consultant & Community Nutrition Specialist